I had a dream about chachi last night, boy did i have a crush on him back in the 80s. seeing him on that show about him turning 45 and being single, he still looked good, he aged well, but he just seemed like such a jerk to his girlfriend (now wife), that it definitely crushed any innocent vaulted memories i had of him. i know i know, chachi was a fake person, but in the 80s, like any teenager, I was impressionable and the image of him stuck.
speaking of impressions...
Since going out with Ken, many of his friends, both childhood and college friends, have told me on separate occasions, in jest, like roasting him, but also being serious, how much of a tool Ken was growing up and in college. He was very cocky, very competitive, and would be very insulting without him realizing it. If I had known Ken growing up and in his young 20s, I would have been so turned off by him and never given him a 2nd thought, my image and impression of him would just have remained. But the 30s Ken I met and know, is a more mature, mellower version of what he used to be. I mean, I can see how he could have been, because I see glimmers of his cockiness but it comes off as confidence because he's not so arrogant about it. He's much more conscientious of the things he says and how he says it, and he can still be competitive but he doesn't come aff as a tool about it.
Last week I had a hell of week at work, I was so stressed out about an issue that came up that wasn't our fault, but because I felt like we had to deliver the message, it was difficult how it would be worded and come across, and furthermore, some ppl might be trying to fingerpoint and throw it back on us that it was our fault. I was overwhelmed, that was the feeling, of how we could handle this properly, and part of me just wanted to sweep it under the carpet, bury my head and not deal with it. I had a call with my senior manager/boss to discuss what we would do. And I'm so incredibly grateful to have a boss that just has my back, and supports me in every way possible. She literally had to calm me down, walk me throught a few contingencies we could take, and that we'd set up an internal meeting with our team to figure out the best next steps. She then took all the next steps of setting up meetings with various parties to cover all our bases, and finally today we had a meeting to deliver the "bad news". And it went surprisingly well, it's still bad news, that team has to figure out how they're going to deal with it and the costs, but there was no fingerpointing, and so it was overall positive. -sigh- of relief...